Thank you for visiting Baloani, which I hope will prove to be a great point of reference for your personal philosophical
and spiritual journey.
My name is Paul Becque. When I first dated my wife, she called me Beqster, and the name has stuck! Now my friends and work colleagues use it too.
Since I was a child I wanted to know what life is all about. Consequently, I’ve studied many different beliefs and kept an open mind.
Buddhism and Taoism have been very inspirational for me. And, more recently, “The Secret” and our growing knowledge of quantum physics has taken me to an even deeper level of commitment to my discoveries. “Baloani” is simply a video diary of my journey and a reference point for anyone that resonates with my exploration.
Blog week 21 -
This weeks blog is all about dealing with rejection. It’s gonna happen, it’s a part of life. And I like to think that “winning” is the fun part... so if there was no challenge, it wouldn’t be fun and winning wouldn’t feel so good.
If I had just gone out and bought my Cadillac with no consideration for the price, the repayments, the running costs... it wouldn’t feel as good as it does. And perhaps that’s why so many rich and often famous people have not been able to find happiness. It was all too easy. Fighting for something, planning for it, working toward it, and finally achieving it, receiving it... feels awesome!
Maybe that’s why I’ve struggled so much in my own life? I enjoy the struggle... it’s my paradigm, it’s my way of thinking. And the truth is, I can have it all. “If I work for it” is a parameter that I add to it’s achievement. I make it as hard, or as easy as I want... but I need to understand that philosophy to change it.
In “The Success Principles”, Jack Canfield suggests that rejection is a myth. It’s all in the mind. We fear being turned down. But what difference does it make? When you apply for a job, you didn’t have the job before you applied, and if you get rejected, you don’t have it after you’ve applied. No change.
If you ask your Boss for a raise, you didn’t have the extra money before you asked, and if he says “no”, you don’t have the extra money after you’ve asked. No change.
In short, getting a “no” makes no difference. But by asking, you might get a “yes” and that is where the difference lies. Each “no” is a step closer to the yes. And it’s the “yes” we’re after.
Throughout this blog there are numerous examples of people being persistent and asking again, and again and again. Take a look at the “Rocky” story in week 10. It’s a perfect example of how we see the final result and don’t think about the years of effort that may have gone into a project or career to get to that final point of success.
Here’s a more recent example.
As you’re on the net, I bet you use,
or have used Google at some point
in time. I reckon I use it every day!
But when it began, Google was just
an idea created by two students,
Sergey Brin and Larry Page. They
created and built the site from their
dorm... and by 1998 they needed
investment, and approached
They were rejected. Can you
believe it? Yahoo! could have
bought the company for peanuts,
but declined and told the students
to continue working on their school
project! 5 years later, Google were worth billions of dollars and today, are estimated to have a market value of more than £150 billion!
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I’m guessing that I’m pretty resilient because I grew up wanting to be an actor, and I knew from an early age that it was 90% rejection, 10% success. Audition after audition, after audition. The “no” would be hard to take, but you had to keep digging for the nugget of gold... the “yes”. And every audition is a risk, putting your confidence on the line, your heart and your soul in the belief that you’ll get a yes.
When I look back at my own past, I can see that the numerous “no’s” were worth it. I got to work in London Theatre’s, travel the world entertaining on cruise ships, live in Los Angeles and be in movies, work at Universal Studios producing cartoons and more recently, get a permanent job on tv. If I add up every “no” I endured it’s gonna be frightening, but each “yes” bought immeasurable pleasure for days, often weeks and in some cases, years!
When I was out of work as an actor or entertainer, I’d always find a job in sales. It seemed to be the only employment that didn’t care about your qualifications. Could you sell? Did you have the strength to knock on doors, or pick up the phone, time and time again to talk with someone and offer them your goods. I did. And I believe that my drive was created by knowing that if I could find the person that wanted my product, I’d be able to earn enough money to do what I really wanted to do... act, travel, buy a car, pay my bills, enjoy my life.
I’ve sold everything from manhole covers to double glazing, legal secretaries to copies of the Crown Jewels... and now I’ve found the perfect combination. I’m a salesman, on tv! Can you believe it? It’s an exact match to what I’ve done all my life, entertainment and sales... consequently, I LOVE my job on Bid tv.
This weeks blog is about rejection.
Having been in sales and entertainment all my life, it’s something I’ve become accustomed to, and not afraid of... but it can be painful if you don’t have the right attitude towards rejection... it’s another shift in thought patterns, another paradigm change that can make your
life feel better!
Bob Proctor
and Mary Morrissey
the complete package
In a never ending effort to be the best I can be, and as suggested in last weeks blog, I’m now working hard to bring my thoughts and the Law of Attraction techniques into practice at work. So I’ve been scouring the internet to find a sales guru that will line up with my philosophy... and I’ve found him. Jeffrey Gitomer... an advocate of Earl Nightingale, Andrew Carnegie and Napoleon Hill.
In this clip he makes it clear that rejection is to be used, no feared. And that’s the key to this chapter... ask, ask, ask, until you
get a yes! Don’t be afraid of “no”... embrace it, learn from it, move forward.
What I also like about Mr. Gitomer is his ultimate view that it’s all about the customer
and providing a service. It’s about giving, not getting. Bob Proctor once pointed
out that we’re all educated as children to be good little “go-
I’ll try out some of the techniques over the next few weeks and keep ya posted. It’s fun to try out new things and it’s making my job more interesting... it would be awesome if I saw further improvements and find that I “attracted” Jeffrey Gitomer into my life. But if it doesn’t work out... I’ll just say “next!”
That's only the initial impression.
The important thing is not to retreat; you have to master yourself.
When you do a thing, do it with all your mind. Put your whole soul to it.
Stamp it with your own personality.
Be active, be energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful,
and you will accomplish your object.
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Imagine how progress would be held back by people “giving in”. Ideas are coming up every day and you’ve gotta make a point of sticking to your guns, believing in it and moving on. If people, investors, friends, family, don’t want to be a part of it... move on... just say “next”.
This clips show the way in which Google has grown since 1995, and you can see the incremental changes which accumulate to an incredible force that has changed the way we use the net.
And there’s more good news! Remember in week 18 we talked about the acronym for FEAR?
False
Expectations
Appearing
Real
It proved to be true with the Cadillac. I just bought my road tax, which cost £245
and not the £450 that I was expecting. My insurance company reduced the total from
£800 to £600 because of my no-
Next week is all about sing feedback to our advantage.
Lori DePoe Dixon 30 June 2010 22:33:43
Love listening to your blogs! Peace
Shirley Johnson 1 July 2010 16:57:54
Hi have just listened and read your comments. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences very interesting and thought provoking.
Alan Roberts 2 July 2010 12:35:36
they say we should follow our dreams, you did just that, awesome
Lori DePoe Dixon 2 July 2010 12:54:27
Imagine it to be true, and so it is......... :)
Dorothy Kenny 2 July 2010 14:08:49
I got my present house the same way... This one had all the amenities that I wanted to change in my last one... down to the smallest detail. After living here for one year I pulled a print out of some old artwork in my files... and there it was. A Monotype made 10 years previous called "SAILORS HAVEN"... showing the exact view of the waters edge from my deck! THOUGHT MADE MANIFEST!
Norma Davey 2 July 2010 16:39:15
I really appreciate your inspiration
PD Scott 5 July 2010 13:46:24
I have read your blog, and it all makes a lot of sense. I also found 2 quotes helpful. Henry Ford quoted "The way to succeed is to double your failure rate." the other from Mary Kay Ash "Sandwich every bit of criticism between 2 layers of praise." Thanks Paul. xx
Charlene Cochrane 5 July 2010 15:03:31
I love this! Thanks
J Mina 5 July 2010 15:45:41
Dear Beqster,
Thank you for writing the blog. I find it very timely and inspiring. I just had a
breakup from a 5 year relationship two weeks ago. The reason was he fell out of love
and fell in love with someone else. Knowing the truth, I broke-
If I had not known the Law of Attraction and the Success Principles, it could have been more painful for me to move on. People in the office admired my strength and courage that I managed to laugh and be functional considering my situation. I admit that there is still pain and longing to be with him. To divert my attention, I tried to rediscover my passion. I focused more on work and joined some interest group like charity, photography club and music club.
When I feel like I had been rejected, I keep in mind what Jack Canfield said about
SWSWSWSW -
I always pray to God and to the universe to give me ten-
By the way, sorry if my message was long.
Charlene Amram 5 July 2010 17:43:22
You are so right about rejection...just believe in yourself.
Marilyn Tam 5 July 2010 20:40:33
Hi Paul. How lovely to hear from you. Thank you for reaching out. It looks like you
have found a comfortable and meaningful niche, many blessings. I smiled as I looked
at your list of writers -
Stay well and in touch.
All good wishes, Marilyn
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