Thank you for visiting Baloani, which I hope will prove to be a great point of reference for your personal philosophical
and spiritual journey.
My name is Paul Becque. When I first dated my wife, she called me Beqster, and the name has stuck! Now my friends and work colleagues use it too.
Since I was a child I wanted to know what life is all about. Consequently, I’ve studied many different beliefs and kept an open mind.
Buddhism and Taoism have been very inspirational for me. And, more recently, “The Secret” and our growing knowledge of quantum physics has taken me to an even deeper level of commitment to my discoveries. “Baloani” is simply a video diary of my journey and a reference point for anyone that resonates with my exploration.
Blog week 24 -
I’m pleased to share with you, that I’m back on track!!! What’s amazing, is the fact
that actually writing about my tumultuous week for the “Baloani®” blog, created clarity
for me and encouraged me to take control of my situation and regain my inner strength.
It forced me to THINK about my circumstances and move toward a positive result in
the very best way that I could. I accepted responsibility for my part, my actions,
my thoughts and realised that I couldn’t control the other individuals involved.
This brought me peace and removed the physical discomfort (dis-
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This week’s blog
is about making a commitment to Constant And Never-
The course was fascinating and I want to share the basic details with you... providing
links for those who believe they may benefit from it, would like to pursue it further,
or wish to share it with friends, colleagues and/or employees. It is based on the
Thomas-
Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann identified five main styles of dealing with conflict
that vary in degrees of cooperation and assertion. They suggest that people generally
have a preferred conflict-
The TKI is a fast and powerful tool
that can go beyond conflict
management to support team-
building and leadership. It offers a
practical way to initiate safe and
non-
conflict, making it ideal for use in a
number of situations. It also
provides an insight into behaviour,
which in turn helps you to make
better choices when communicating
with others.
It’s really interesting stuff, and ties
in perfectly with everything that
the “Baloani®” project believes
in... and funnily enough, the Trainer
constantly used terms that could have been right out of material advocating the “Law of Attraction”. Awesome!
Every action has a positive intention... we just need to take time to THINK about what that intention is... and sometimes we need to change our own perception of someone’s behaviour or actions to discover the positive intention.
Examples could include someone being cold towards you, when they are actually madly in love with you and don’t know how to deal with the situation, or are afraid of being hurt. Perhaps you consider someone at work to be stubborn, but they are actually afraid to make mistakes and don’t want to do something in a different way which could result in failure financially or personally.
Finally, be aware that we often, don’t like in others, what we don’t want to see in ourselves! If you write down five traits that really annoy you when you see them in others you may discover your own “hot buttons”.
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when we already know the answer,
but wish we didn’t.
And today, as part of my personal development at work, I took a course on “Dealing
with Conflict”, which ties in perfectly with my personal needs and this weeks blog...
Constant And Never-
Here are the five main styles of dealing with conflict as prescribed by the TKI
1. Competing is assertive and uncooperative—an individual pursues his own concerns
at the other person's expense. This is a power-
2. Accommodating is unassertive and cooperative—the complete opposite of competing.
When accommodating, the individual neglects his own concerns to satisfy the concerns
of the other person; there is an element of self-
3. Avoiding is unassertive and uncooperative—the person neither pursues his own concerns nor those of the other individual. Thus he does not deal with the conflict. Avoiding might take the form of diplomatically sidestepping an issue, postponing an issue until a better time, or simply withdrawing from a threatening situation.
4. Collaborating is both assertive and cooperative—the complete opposite of avoiding. Collaborating involves an attempt to work with others to find some solution that fully satisfies their concerns. It means digging into an issue to pinpoint the underlying needs and wants of the two individuals. Collaborating between two persons might take the form of exploring a disagreement to learn from each other's insights or trying to find a creative solution to an interpersonal problem.
5. Compromising is moderate in both assertiveness and cooperativeness. The objective
is to find some expedient, mutually acceptable solution that partially satisfies
both parties. It falls intermediate between competing and accommodating. Compromising
gives up more than competing but less than accommodating. Likewise, it addresses
an issue more directly than avoiding, but does not explore it in as much depth as
collaborating. In some situations, compromising might mean splitting the difference
between the two positions, exchanging concessions, or seeking a quick middle-
I’m gonna end this weeks blog with the point that I learned today in the “Conflict”
class which relates to re-
If we perceive something as negative, that’s the message we deliver to our brain. Then our brain produces states that make it a reality. If we change our frame of reference by looking at the same situation from a different point of view, we can change our state and behaviour.
I’m a “rightist.”
I do something until it’s right,
and then I move on to the next thing.
with how you are going to achieve your goal -
All you have to do is know where you're going.
The answers will come to you of their own accord, and at the right time.
With regard to Constant And Never-
This week was successful in the sense that I managed to return to a place of positive thought and returned to the Hour of Power... my current reading is the Jeffery Gitomer “Sales Bible” and I’m taking a different point or idea each week and implementing it in my work, which should create incremental improvements.
I also broke away from my temporary need for alcohol and comfort food and spent the
week improving my own personal website paulbecque.com, whilst beginning a collaboration
on an album of music which aims to bring meditational sounds and messages about Positive
Mental Attitude and the Law of Attraction to a toe-
Next week I will be participating in a course regarding “Team Building” which shows my own personal commitment to CANI.
Deb Wells 21 July 2010 12:35:23
Hi Paul... well listen up bud, you wouldn't be normal if you didn't fall at some
hurdles in life! we all do it!... and wine and the odd 'pig-
Nigel Cottrell 21 July 2010 16:54:53
Through the darkest night a light will come, just a glimmer at first, and then slowly at first the dawn will break, every time you blink it will become lighter, and then you will be bathed in sunlight... and your day will have arrived... buddy
Bob Proctor 26 July 2010 18:15:44
Dear Beqster, I don't know about you, but when I first started to tap into the power
of manifesting, I had quite a few frustrating "failures" before I "got it" for good.
If you've been trying as hard as you can to get it right-
Vero Lara 29 July 2010 08:09:35
I get something new every time I watch this (Jim Carrey clip), thanks for sharing!
Renee Lynn Anderson Upson 29 July 2010 15:55:36
Thanks. It is also very nice to see another side of this man (Jim Carrey).
Pat McLean 29 July 2010 18:18:44
Had to repost this (Jim Carrey)! Thanks! This is so how I think and it's nice to
see the inside-
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